“Sadly, I have heard people advise others who are grieving, ‘Quit thinking about the past. The future is what you can do something about, so that’s where you now need to be looking.’ But this advice is wrong. First, we must reminisce. For reminiscing–recalling events, conversations, occurrences from the past–is one of the important ways that we mourn. (In fact, the word mourning in Sanskrit means ‘to remember’.) And, paradoxically, reminiscing is a way of thinking that can result in our getting free from our sadness and even our depression if we are caught in that place of blackness.”
SEVEN CHOICES by Elizabeth Harper Neeld, PH.D.