Roots in the Darkness

“That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith, that you being rooted and grounded in love might be filled with all the fullness of God…….. and grow up into Him in all thing which is the head of Christ.” Ephesians 3:17, 19

Unless narcissus bulbs are kept a long time in the dark, they spring up at once, have no roots, are weak, and the flowers are imperfect.  When those same bulbs are kept in the dark until a strong network of roots grows around the pebbles, they grow and bloom perfectly.

The grief journey of a widow is a place of great darkness.   The results of that journey are determined by how we go through that journey.  We can either stuff our grief and move through it as quickly as we can stuffing our emotions and moving on with life the way that others want us to or we can be consistent in our grief – turning around and meeting it head on staying in that dark place until we have dealt with it.

No woman wants to be a widow.  In fact, I would venture to say that most widows never dreamed that they would ever be a widow.  Most of our dreams were of growing old together with our husbands.  The thought of our husband  leaving us to fend for ourselves on this earth probably never entered our minds for that kind of thought is much too painful and unimaginable.

But, I believe that if a husband of a widow could say something to her now, he would say, “Don’t give up!  Don’t just curl up in a corner with a blanket over your head  and allow your life to become a ruin!  Sink your roots down deeply in Christ during this dark grief journey!

There is nothing more desolate than an incompleted ruin.  It stands a decaying, hollow mockery of its rich promise of victory and achievements.   Even more desolate is the hollow ruin of a life of great possibilities.

“God had one Son without sin; He has none without sorrow.”


One response

  1. Your posts always touch my heart. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am not a widow, but we have an aunt who is who is still grieving and it’s been several years now since our uncle passed away. The thought of losing your spouse is heart breaking.

    Below is one passage of scripture that really blesses me. What we have is hope in this life, hope in Jesus the author and finisher of our faith. Faith is our gift from Him.

    May you daily feel His loving arms surrounding you, feel His peace flooding your whole being. You will be reunited one day with your husband. As you and other widows have said Jesus is now your husband. Let Him be your strength.
    Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding.

    He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength.

    Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall:

    But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

    Isa 40:28-31

    Love and hugs ~ FlowerLady


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