Romans 8:28?

Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.  Romans 8:26-28  The Message

One of the hardest verse in the Bible for me to understand for the last six and a half years has been Romans 8:28 – the last sentence in the above scripture passage.  I remember sitting with my dad in the nursing home two months after my husband died and a week after my mom had joined him and asking, “Daddy, how does Romans 8:28 work for you and me now?”  That was a verse that Dad had quoted to me many times when I was struggling with something, but for the first time, he didn’t have an answer to my question.

So many times I hear people say or write in their facebook posts about something good or wonderful that has happened in their lives and their comment is “God is so good!” and I wonder if they lost their spouse, would they be able to say that same thing about God.

C. S. Lewis said, “We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us.  We are wondering how painful the best will be.”  When I heard this statement, I finally understood my feelings about Romans 8:28.  And I’m still looking for the way that God is bringing good from my being a widow.  One thing I have found is that my heart has a special passion for widows now that I never had before.

One response

  1. Candy – so well said. My husband had a stroke that eventually led to his passing on the day before our joint birthday. I remember sitting in the hospital on the next day asking God “how is this a birthday present?”. As the months have passed I have begun to see just a glimmer of how it indeed was a gift – perhaps not one wrapped in fine paper with a shiny bow according to the world’s standards – but a gift nevertheless. With the other health complications that Ken had his passing would have been incredibly painful and difficult – the stroke hastened his death but also allowed it to be a more peaceful one – he passed in his sleep 7 months later. I too have found a new level of compassion for widows as well as a real genuine compassion for those who hurt and are lost.


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