Pictured above is the California Poppy. Because it is adapted to both fire and earthquakes it grows well in disturbed areas and often recolonizes after fires.
(Excerpt from REAWAKENINGS TO LIFE by Mary Ellen Berry & Carmen Renee Berry)
* Give yourself plenty of time to grieve.
* Put one foot in front of the other, one step at a time, and one day at a time.
* Expect good things.
* It’s okay to be angry with God or to be confused or unsure of your faith.
* Protect yourself from others who can’t tolerate your feelings and doubts.
* Allow God’s presence to comfort you.
* Hold on to the belief that God has a purpose for you.
* Work toward accepting that your life has changed and will never be the same.
* Don’t expect to be perfect through this process.
* Don’t push yourself.
* Model how to rebuild a life for your children.
* Keep fond memories of your husband alive.
* Make it okay to be happy.
* Accept support from your children.
* Transform traditions.
* Take comfort in memories.
* Don’t waste time with “what if’s” when it comes to money.
* Become a financial student.
* Think creatively about your finances.
* Give yourself time to decide where to live.
* Be open to creative living arrangements.
* Let the process of going through your husband’s belongings help you heal.
* Only keep what you want.
* Enjoy making your own decorating decisions.
* Protect your need to grieve and rebuild your life.
* As you heal, be open to helping others.
* Recognize your unique gifts.
* Let God lead you.
* Recognize that you don’t need a man to be happy.
* Don’t jump into a new romance prematurely.
* Never say never.
* Do something that honors your late husband.
* Follow in your late husband’s footsteps.
* Find your own niche.
* Get on the road again.
* Release regrets and embrace gratitude.