A large percentage of widows who are under the age of 50 will remarry. No matter what age you are, here are some questions to ask yourself if you are considering remarriage.
1. Do you have the same interests or values?
2. If there are children, how do they feel about your remarrying?
3. Is your prospective mate understanding?
4. Does your prospective mate listen to you attentively and give you a chance to express your opinions and feelings?
5. Is your prospective mate open-minded rather than rigid and opinionated?
6. Is your prospective mate willing to bend and compromise or does he insist on his own way?
7. What is the financial status of each of you?
8. Should you have a prenuptial agreement and new wills?
9. What is the physical health of each of you?
10. Do you know the personal habits of the other person and are they something you can live with?
11. What are your religious beliefs?
12. What will be your living arrangements?
13. Do either of you have family or financial obligations?
14. If you have grown children, what will be your contact with them after you remarry?
15. How will you manage family traditions and holidays?
16. Have each of you dealt with your own personal issues and baggage from the past?
17. Have you sought any kind of counseling separately or together about your prospective marriage?
18. Have you both taken the necessary time to really get to know each other?
19. Is your prospective mate willing to live with the “other man in your life” and all of your memories?
20. Have you discovered just who you are as an unmarried woman and become comfortable with that?
21. What will be the ramifications of your social security income and/or your health insurance should you remarry?
(#’s 1-15 taken from Coping With Life After Your Mate Dies)