In her book Inside the Broken Heart Julie Yarbrough talks about how grief changes us –
Inherent in grief is its power to change us. Grief can impact us negatively or positively.
Grief can make us:
Stronger or Weaker or Embittered
More Faithful or Disillusioned or Spiritually Isolated
More Capable or Disabled or Dysfunctional
Independent or Dependent or Helpless
Wiser or Stubborn or Willful
Deliberate or Impulsive or Rash
Change offers two possibilities. We grow, or we remain rooted in a physical and emotional past that no longer exists. To grow or not to grow is the central choice of grief. We are forced to change, but we choose whether we grow. When we grow, we claim life moving forward. When we resist, we succumb to the past, spending our days in frustration and self-pity.
Life continues to unfold when we dare to grow. Growth moves us to a new place in life that inspires our reinvestment in the future. Our faith emboldens us to grow and change through the experience of grief.
For me personally even though grief has made me vulnerable it has also made me stronger and more independent. Grief has made me much more aware of the needs of others – especially those who have suffered a loss. It has forced me to take a look deep inside my heart and see things that have been shut up inside a closet behind a locked door. Grief has caused me to be much more willing to be honest about exactly what I am feeling and to voice those feelings. I am able to now stand up for myself when necessary. Because of grief, I am trying to do things that I would have never thought I could do.
How has your grief changed?
How has grief changed you?
I loved this statement of yours.
*Life continues to unfold when we dare to grow. Growth moves us to a new place in life that inspires our reinvestment in the future. Our faith emboldens us to grow and change through the experience of grief.*
I am daily growing closer to Jesus. Every day I am thankful that my dear husband is there with Jesus full of life, joy and thanksgiving.
Grief sneaks up on me, but I am not without hope in Jesus. He is my rock, He holds my hand, He is my strength, He loves me deeply, cares for me immensely.
My hope in Christ is what keeps me. Going, Lorraine. That and knowing where my husband is now and that I will see him again.