Have you found yourself craving certain foods since the death of your husband? Do you know that food cravings are your body trying to tell you something? Alexandra Jamieson tells us about food cravings and how to determine what they mean.
“You know yourself and are your own health advocate, but you don’t follow through with things that you know. You have food cravings or repetitive negative thoughts that keep us stuck. Not only working on the small consistent food switches that help you release pounds, but also the mindset about cravings is important. We really have habits that run our lives. We don’t understand them or know how to stop them. I’ve been able to create simple exercises to keep people in tune with catching those habits and incorporate them easily without a lot of work.
You need to feel comfortable and happy in your own body. Not feeling comfortable in your body appears in many ways – you are really hard on yourself and think that you look much worse than you really do and weigh more than you actually do. How good you look is never good enough. This goes to into trying so hard to be perfect. The pursuit of perfection is awesome because it’s wonderful to be brave and try for those things that will light up your soul….to do your best. But, you can get paralyzed by the pursuit of perfection and this can be true of your diet and exercise. If you mess up 1 time, you will just chuck it all. You are really, really hard on yourself. Perfection can derail us.
Cravings are part of this because it can really feed into the lack of perfection when you have cravings and don’t really understand them or have tools to deal with them.
Different cravings are viewed as bad, something to get rid of, and you need more will power. That means that you believe that your body is bad and not trustworthy. Cravings are just information telling you that your body is just out of balance. They aren’t something that is wrong. It doesn’t mean that you follow every craving or act on craving, but it IS information to get under the surface of what is going on with your body and how your mental state or environment is affecting your body.
If you are in a high stress job, commute more than 1 ½ hour a day, or are in a bad relationship, this causes stress, loneliness, anger or static in your body. The body doesn’t like that static. It shows up in your stomach, head, tension in your muscles, pain, discomfort, etc. The body just wants to feel good.
There are nutritional deficiencies that cause cravings.
3 Deficiencies Causing Your Sabotaging Food Cravings
1. Nutritional Sugar – doesn’t necessarily mean you are lacking sugar in your body, but it could mean you have candida. There are more bacteria in your body than anything. Salt – a mineral deficiency. Our diet can be deficient in lots of minerals. Salt used to hold a lot of minerals. Good quality sea salt is gray and wet looking. You need more sea veggies. Main Coast Sea Vegetables are wild harvested and sell condiment shakers that you can just sprinkle it right on your food every meal to get all the minerals that you need daily. The triple flake blend has dulse and is higher in iron.
2. Physical Any discomfort in your body is telling you that if you eat something with sugar in it, you will feel good right now. Proper rest is one of the physical deficiencies….good quality, good quantity (8 hrs.) a day is necessary. This will help your food cravings, metabolism and reduce need for caffiene and sugar during the day.
3. Emotional This is a major component. How were you raised with food? How did your family act around food? Food is the most intimate thing that we share with each other in public. We are taking in energy and sustenance and sharing life together at the table. A craving for true intimacy is behind a lot of our emotional food cravings. The sugar and fat of ice cream makes you feel good and happy when what you are really missing is an intimate relationship and a positive partner.
How to Tell Difference Between Healthy Craving and Hurtful Cravings
Ask yourself 1 question no matter what craving is coming up or what situation you are in – “What food am I craving? How do I want to feel? What is the feeling that I want? What is my body trying to create with that food craving? Is it relaxation, to be more awake and focused, to just feel numb and space out after a crazy day, to distress? How do you want to feel? Do you want to feel taken care of , relaxed, safe, or cozy?
Once you’ve given the words to that, if you are in a relationship, it requires some vulnerability to say to your partner that you are having cravings for sugar right now, but what I really want is to cuddle up with you, talk with you, etc.
If you are single, how can you take care of yourself in this moment to give yourself the security to know that you are loveable and give yourself the support that you need in that moment?
We have needs that need to be satisfied in other ways besides eating food. The food is really just your body’s understanding of what will help you feel best and fastest, not what will help me get to the place that I truly desire to be in.
Stay curious and playful, non-judgmental about whatever you discover about yourself about your cravings and your habit. Curiosity comes from a place of true interest and not knowing it all. This will help you to dissolve those habits faster.”
It is up to you now as a widow to take care of yourself.