One of the things that I have purposely been thinking about, reading about and trying to incorporate into my life recently is the practice of being mindful and just living in this moment instead of worrying ahead about all the “what if’s”. This isn’t how I have lived my adult life. You see, I’m one of those people who is always thinking ahead, planning ahead, imagining what might happen and how I can deal with it. I see now that so much of my life energy has been wasted in doing this.
Today is the 8th anniversary of my husband’s journey to heaven. How appropo that my reading this morning in the book One Mindful Day at a Time by Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD. was the following:
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.”
Change is movement, right? It’s the shifting of this to that. It’s the ending of one thing and the starting of another. Whether we asked for it or not, whether we like it or not, it’s pushing us all the time
We often resist. We try to plant our feet and stand firm. But change gives us a shove, and off we go.
Since we’re moving anyway, we might as well go with the flow. Resistance only makes it harder, after all. If we plunge in and mindfully move with the change instead of against it, we aligning with its transformative energies.
Might as well join the dance.
Now, I have never liked change. And the change of my title of “wife” to “widow” was not one that I asked for. And, I did resist it for a time because I, frankly, did not like it. However, in time I realized that this change was out of my control. I was hurting myself by fighting against it. Lying back in the current of my life, closing my eyes and learning to live in this precious present moment is the way that God wants me to deal now with my life. Is it easy? No. I tend to take back the reins of my life often wanting to control everything so to avoid any more hurt or pain. So, I’m a lesson in progress.
Mindfulness………something to consider.
Thank you for this encouraging post dear Candy. You inspire me.
So kind of you to say that. Thank you.